Relationships-Do We do Too Much For Our Adult Children-1

Today's parents generally feel obligated to give their children a higher education to help them start their adult life on what they think is "the right foot." Because of this attitude, this probably prolongs the child's adolescent attitude into the mid-20's and possibly longer in some cases. It is being found that the 18-20 year old's of 35-50 years ago were much more likely to find themselves on their own and better suited to handle adult responsibilities than some 24-25 year olds in today's world.

Today's young adult child has higher expectations involving lifestyle. They fully expect to live the same lifestyle that their parents live but don't realize how much work it took to get to this stage. My own experience shows that one of my children does not see why college is necessary and has decided to work for a year, to "find himself." He can't understand why things cost as much as they do but also doesn't expect to work more than 25 hours a week at a low paying job to satisfy his every desire and needs.

He says that he doesn't need much money but he also doesn't realize that if he moves out of the parents house that the expense of rent, utilities and food are going to overwhelm his paycheck when it doesn't stretch the entire two weeks as it is.

I have found though that one develops a thicker skin when dealing with an adult child as we have quit "lending" him money as it never seems to find its way home again. He is responsible for the expenses of his car as it should be. In a few month's, when the current contract on his cell phone on the family plan comes due, it will be his total expense rather than a portion of the bill.

Although I love my children more than life itself, but it is time to let them go, no matter how hard they hold on to you.